I'm a geek and a movie addict and this is my personal space

Feeding the trolls

Not a big fan of fantasy, nonetheless as a child I knew what a troll was, a short ugly mythical character with a nasty disposition who usually was up to no good. The trolls of my acquaintance resided in fairy tales.

Half a century later I tangled with my first xnxx. It wasn’t a fairy tale.

This troll probably isn’t short or ugly. He most certainly isn’t youporn. He is very real and nasty, He is not part of a role-playing or fantasy game on my computer, someone to do battle against and win.

An internet definition of a troll is that of an individual who usually spreads falsehoods in order to get individuals to respond so he/she can bait, taunt, flame, frustrate or annoy them.

Often the initial encounters are innocuous enough. After my personal experience with the videos porno, I am inclined to equate trolls with abuse in the real world. The abuser is charming and friendly but can turn on a dime and become vicious. And the internet troll is just as abusive, the effect to the victim similar.

A troll’s nationality or location is of no consequence, the goal is the same and master trolls can be found where there are game rooms or chat rooms or blogs or newsgroups, in any language 24 hours a day.

Trolls are basically bully’s who use words to intimidate people. The troll I battled was someone I had watched post comments on blogs. I did not have a lot of respect for this individual, however people are entitled to their opinion and the whole point of a comment section or forum is to express different points of view. This person’s humour had an edge to it. One had the sense that he lurked, waiting for certain individuals to post so he could shoot them down. Behind the scenes his emails could be quite nasty. Since this individual headed a portal (a website that leads into a number of other sites), they could and did control the content of the front page of the portal. Control is the operative word.

My mistake was questioning an article he had posted on that front page. It was a rambling and tedious personal opinion about a subject that was best placed on individual blogs on the portal. Obviously this troll wanted the attention his inappropriate article would generate. I bit.

One of the best techniques in dealing with difficult people (or your elected political representative J) is to ask questions, the harder the better. So I asked why he felt it was appropriate to post his personal opinion on the front page where people could not comment and visitors to the site could be offended. Why had he not put the article on his own site?

He flew back at me in an email, questioning my values for not believing his point of view as being totally correct. Because this is a religious portal, he used scripture and God to set me straight.

I persisted. He came back immediately. It got uglier. Way too many emails later, he entered the portal and pulled a comment from one of the blogs I had posted on.

This is the part I am ashamed of. I was so angry I was shaking. I flew back at him with more questions, like why he felt it was appropriate to raid a comment section and track me (I had used a pseudonym when I had posted that comment, he is a technician and had no trouble finding it).

I informed him I was not impressed with his raid of the comment section. That was just what he had been waiting for all day. He send a fast reply telling me that I had to prove he had traced me, told me to cease and desist or he would prosecute to the full extent of the law.

At that point I snapped out of the headspace I had been dwelling in all day, stopped the battle and blocked him. In hindsight should I have sent my full name and address and told him to go ahead and sue me? You can’t get blood from a stone. That was what I dearly wanted to do, but that is my point exactly, I would have continued to play into his controlling little hands. I also told him to leave God out of it. All day he had whacked me over the head with scripture and God, and while my faith is important to me, I don’t shove it down other people’s throats. I tried dragging other people into the fray, hoping to get some support. Wise to the troll, they backed off. Again in hindsight I should have recognized it was a battle that should not have been fought.

Trolls infuriate me. I thought I was a reasonably intelligent individual who could hold their own. Guess not. What about children and young people in game chats? There are plenty of trusting individuals for trolls to pick off, like a hyena after a wildebeest.

I won’t be a wildebeest again. (Real life translation – don’t be a victim).

Cricket’s Rules for Dealing with Trolls

1. DON’T FEED THE TROLLS. If you suspect someone is baiting you in a comment section, a forum, or via email, try not to bite. (Obviously I need to take my own advice here J)

2. If a troll comes after you, block them. Most chats have a block feature. You can also block their emails or use a program such as mailwasher to bounce the email back to them without having to view it.

3. If a troll threatens you, contact the police. Consider dialogue with a cyberangel to get the emotional and practical support you might need.

4. Remember the golden rule? Trolls don’t adhere to the golden rule or any rule, so ignore it. Be kind, considerate and gracious once. Then drop it and walk away.

5. Trolls have to be in control. A blocked or ignored troll is an unhappy troll.

6. Be prepared for the long haul. Some trolls won’t quit. The troll I know has followed one individual from comment section to comment section, blog to blog, knocking them down. The person isn’t biting, and the troll looks like the fool he is. His behaviour is accelerating. (See point 7)

7. Remember that the world is not always a safe place. People have mental illnesses and may not be able to control their impulse to hurt others. Words do wound.

8. Educate yourself! Ask questions if you are not sure. Remember what your mom always says? There is no such thing as a stupid question.

Stay safe out there. Cricket


The importance of having a mentor – Interview to Angie Kim actress

Who has had an influence on you and your career success? When we interviewed Angie Kim, co-founder of EqualFooting.com, she told us how one of her high school teachers had a lasting impact on how she chooses challenges. From him she learned that pursuing a goal because you are interested in it could be more rewarding than pursuing one because you are good at it. Martha Stewart spoke of the many “experts” she seeks out. And Cathy Hughes, owner of Radio One, speaks of how the radio itself had a profound influence on her childhood. Hear their stories here.

We had a lot of fun interviewing the women entrepreneurs from the exhibit and finding out who or what influenced their success. We thought you, too, might want to interview someone you admire and we’ve provided some tips and links to help you do just that. If you’d like to share what you learn during an interview, please Submit Your Story to this site. We’d love to hear it!

Sometimes you want to interview others not for purposes of recording their stories for posterity, but to help give yourself insight into the lessons they’ve learned. If you are an aspiring entrepreneur, conducting informational interviews can be invaluable in helping you learn not only from others’ successes, but from their mistakes, too.

Interview to Angie Kim about the importance of finding a mentor

– When I was 15 I found out about a school called Interlaken Arts Academy in Michigan. Mr. Howard Hints was my English teacher when I was a junior and senior. And he is probably the most influential mentor that I’ve had in my life. He was such an amazing teacher and he cared so much for his students that it really made me appreciate the kind of influence that someone can have on your female entrepreneurs. He really tried to steer me away from accomplishments just for accomplishments sake and really tried to get me to think about: what are the kinds of things that would make me happy, that satisfy me in life? And in that way, he turned me away from the path of math and science, which is actually where I was headed just because I was good at them, from my Korean background, more into English, political science, more of the social sciences precisely because he knew that they were a challenge for me. And he helped me to learn that overcoming challenges, in and of itself, can be very interesting and fun and very fulfilling. So he really taught me, I think, one of the most important lessons that I’ve ever learned, which is: don’t just do something because you’re good at it and just because you know that you’re going to be successful at it. Do things that are challenging so that you will continue to learn throughout life.-


Top 50 films

Most of my creative energy is currently devoted to Flipside Movie Emporium, my film review website that covers mainstream cinema and the indies and B-movies that don’t get any respect in mainstream media. I usually write one review per week and I serve as editor over a staff of contributing critics — but they’re such wonderful writers that there’s hardly any “editing” xxx.

My reviews are accessible through popular film websites such as Movie Review Query Engine, Internet Movie Database, Online Film Critics Society, and Rotten Tomatoes. I’m part of the Tomatometer!

This isn’t a favorites list, nor a list of my picks for the greatest films of all time, although most of these films would fit the bill for those topics as well. Instead, these are the films that have had the most impact on me as a cinephile — the films that helped shape my perception of cinema and best exemplify why I love movies. Or that’s the best xxx for this list I could come up with.

Updated: Oct. 23, 2004.

The Apartment (1960)
Back to the Future (1985)
Band of Outsiders (1964)
Before Sunrise (1995)
The Best Years of Our Lives (1946)
Blood Simple (1984)
Body Double (1984)
Bride of Frankenstein (1935)
Brief Encounter (1946)
Carnival of Souls (1962)
Carrie (1976)
Chungking Express (1994)
Citizen Kane (1941)
City Lights (1931)
Dawn of the Dead (1978)
Dazed and Confused (1993)
Halloween (1978)
Hard Eight (1997)
Heavenly Creatures (1994)
It Happened One Night (1934)
The Lady Eve (1941)
Last House on the Left (1972)
Magnolia (1999)
Manhattan (1979)
Metropolis (1927)
Mulholland Drive (2001)
My Life to Live (1962)
Nashville (1975)
Notorious (1946)
Playtime (1967)
Pulp Fiction (1994)
Rashomon (1950)
Rio Bravo (1958)
Say Anything (1989)
The Shining (1980)
A Simple Plan (1998)
Something Wild (1986)
Stolen Kisses (1968)
Sunrise (1927)
Sunset Boulevard (1950)
Suspiria (1977)
Sweet Smell of Success (1957)
Touch of Evil (1958)
Twin Peaks: Fire Walk With Me (1992)
Vertigo (1958)
Wes Craven’s New Nightmare (1994)
Wild Strawberries (1957)
Witchfinder General (1968)
Written on the Wind (1956)